Comparing Apples and Oranges

Comparing Apples and Oranges

fruit-424184_1920 smart copy copyIf you were really honest with yourself how much of your time do you spend comparing apples and oranges? What on earth and I talking about? The time that you spend comparing yourself to someone else that you think is smarter, more successful a better mom or wife and on and on. I may or may not be guilty of doing this myself. Ok, I am actually guilty. It’s not something I set out to do, it just seems to kind of happen. One minute I will be admiring someone’s Like Page on Facebook or scrolling their Instagram feed and then the next thing I know an hour has past of me comparing what their life “appears” to be like with mine really is like and it leaves me feeling completely deflated. But truly all I am doing is comparing apples to oranges because God didn’t make me like them! So, how does one stop living a life of comparison?

First, you MUST learn your own value and be completely grounded in that. If you are a Christian your value comes from Jesus. And here is the key to that, you have the value whether or not you choose to believe it. I would say for someone to give up their life just so they could have a relationship with you that puts you pretty much at the top of the valuable list. BUT for you to believe your value is completely different than the fact that you already are valuable. Sounds cray huh? What do I mean by this? Have you ever heard of someone going to a garage sale and picking up some small tchotchke for like a buck and then find out later that little thing is worth millions? It was always worth millions before the person sold it at the garage sale, but seller was clueless it had any value more than a buck. They were probably actually happy to get a buck for it and get it out of their house. That is what I am talking about having value but not realizing it so we settle in a state of mind that others are worth more and deserve more than we do. Yet that is simply not true. You need to discover the price that has been paid for you and all the promises that are yours because that price has been paid. And then you have believe it’s for you. Sometimes it’s a long hard journey to get to that place, but the trip, as long and hard as it is will be so worth it.

When we get caught in the web of comparison it keeps us prisoner to a false belief that we are not good enough or worthy of enough the way God made us to be as successful (whatever success looks like to you) as the person we have chosen to compare ourselves to. Bottom line is this, you have a different gift and talent, a different fingerprint and iris and as a matter of fact everything about you God created specifically and uniquely to you. He doesn’t want you trying to be someone else. The more you chase after another person’s identity and success the more yours will elude you. God wants you to chase after Him (Matt 6:33) because He is your only true comparison. His word tells us that we were created in HIS likeness, not the air brushed super model on the cover of a magazine who is usually broken in on the inside, they just don’t show us that.

So ask yourself this question, why would you want to take what God created only one of, on purpose, and try to make it look like someone else? You would then no longer be uniquely you. He wants you to find your purpose, value and worth in comparing yourself to the only one worth comparing yourself to and that is Christ. And who you are in Christ has a value worth dying for.

By the way, in case you didn’t know, He calls YOU His masterpiece (Ephesians 2:10) because to Him you are fearfully and wonderfully made just by being you (Psalm 139:14).

It’s Bout to Get Real!

It’s Bout to Get Real!

It's Real!Has there been a time in your life where you just knew you weren’t being true to who God created you to be? Perhaps you’re like me and that time is right now.

For a while now (actually most of my life) I have felt like I haven’t been true to all that God created me to be. I have worried about judgment and rejection (and yes, even some unfriending or unfollowing). However, I know without a doubt it’s time to lay all of that down, spread my wings and become ALL He has created me to be. It’s still a little scary thinking about what others will think or say BUT I am beyond excited!!!!

I know the only way I am going to see a change between now and then is if I lay out my plan and commit to staying focused. I know how easy it is to get off track and talk yourself out of plan so I have my work cut out for me….It’s bout to get real up in here!

Tiramisu ShakeO

Tiramisu ShakeO

Tiramisu Shakeology SmoothieOne of my fave desserts is tiramisu and my favorite place to get it is Amerigo’s, an Italian restaurant here in Nashville.

“Tiramisu” is the Italian word for “little pick-me-up.” However, if you have ever had the dessert before you know it’s definitely something you only treat yourself to once in a while because it a definite “weigh-you-down” loaded with sugar and wasted calories.

I have great news though! I have found away to have it everyday as a little pick-me-up that is loaded with nutrition you will never find in the traditional dessert. OMGosh!!! Try this tiramisu-flavored smoothie!



Total Time: 5 min.
Prep Time: 5 min.
Cooking Time: None
Yield: 1 serving

1 cup brewed coffee, chilled
1 scoop Vanilla Shakeology
1 Tbsp. mascarpone cheese (or part-skim ricotta cheese)
1 tsp. unsweetened cocoa powder
½ tsp. pure rum extract
½ cup ice


1. Place coffee, Shakeology, cheese, cocoa powder, extract, and ice in blender; cover. Blend until smooth.

Only 70 Days Left!

Only 70 Days Left!

project 50(4)Wow, it’s hard to believe that in only 70 days I will be turning another decade older which equates to a half a century!! Whuuuuut!!! It seems unreal to me at times.

My 49th year has been a doozy though so I can actually say I am ready to exit the 40s and enter my 50s. This past year has been full of unexpected and unwelcomed surprises.

I had begged my husband for years and years to stop smoking to no avail. He would always say one day. But one day turned into my husband being diagnosed with renal cancer in May. This diagnosis came right after his resignation as president of a company. We had just celebrated the idea of him entering into a new and prosperous season in his career. But that’s not at all what happened, instead it meant I had an unemployed husband with a diagnosis of an untreatable cancer. Let’s just say there have been A LOT of sleepless nights and tearful prayers since then. Our lives took a nose dive and have been a roller coaster ever since.

I am grateful for my faith because without it there is no telling what path I would have taken to help elevate all the stress and pain I felt from going through the hardest season of my life. Because of my relationship with Christ I was able to rise above myself and allow the Holy Spirit, through me, to love on my husband in what was the darkest season of his life. It was in no way easy, but God showed Himself faithful in the outcome. My husband was declared cancer free as of about a month ago. Now it’s all about honoring God with our lives to show Him how grateful we are that He spared Harvey’s life. In a nutshell, it’s time to do whatever needs to be done to live a healthy life full of laughter and love.

My health story, well, I have had a diagnosis for many, many years of Hashimoto’s disease which is a thyroid condition. It is an auto immune disease (in simple terms I have chronic inflammation in my body) and what happens is my immune system actually attacks my thyroid like it’s a foreign object. Most recently however I was diagnosed with adult on set asthma (yep, that’s basically inflammation in my lungs, see a pattern here?) which has been a HUGE blow to my cardiovascular activity. I went from a crazy wild thang in an aerobic setting to being forced to stop and use the rescue inhaler so that I could catch my breath and hopefully finish.

SOOOO….In honor of me turning 50, I have decided to start “Project 50” to set some goals I want to accomplish over the next 70 days. I have decided that I am so worth giving up some instant gratifications so that I can possibly have some long term health benefits by doing so.

Stay tuned as I lay those goals out and share my journey and progress. It’s time to leave the first half century behind me and enter into a whole new half century feeling vibrant and healthy. I say…out with the old and in with the new!


The Difference a Year Has Made

The Difference a Year Has Made

imageThis time last year I was feeling ahumazing! I was leaning out and getting some definition after a few years of kinda letting myself go. I felt great in my clothes, and not to shabby without them. LOL But in April of this year after returning from a business trip my husband picked me up at the airport and was acting funny, like his back was hurting. When I asked him if he had hurt his back he told me no, he had a kidney stone and was in a lot of pain. He had gone to the ER the night before and had a scan and they verified he had a stone. It was what happened after we got home that changed my world…

As soon as we got in the door my husband said, “come sit down I need to tell your something.” My heart sank because that was so out of character for him. I am usually the one saying, come sit down I want to talk. And then the words came out of his mouth. “They found something when they scanned me, there is a large mass on my kidney. I have to go to the urologist tomorrow.” He was then diagnosed with renal cancer. From that day forward my total focus has been about my husband and helping him win his victory over cancer. In the process however, I have allowed it to take it’s toll on me.

My 50th birthday is just around the corner and I want to rock it out feeling strong and sexy! Time to get my head in the back and my health back on track. Time to gear up my “Hottie For the Holiday” group. If you are interested in participating in a challenge group focused on health and wellness please let me know. I would love to help you reach that goal brings a smile to your face. Email me at:

A Different Choice

A Different Choice

imageI have a lot going on in my life right now and because it’s felt impossible to make it to the gym I have pretty much done NOTHING for a month now. I love my gym & gym family and miss being a part of it but I need to make a different choice in my life for a little while. Now more than ever my health has got to be a priority. So I my choices are:

1. stop working out, or
2. figure it out

2 is the only option for me right now. I decided to checkout Focus T25 because it’s 5 days a week, 25 minutes a day; I think I can swing that one. By working out at home I can be as flexible as I need to over theses next few months.

Feeling hopeful and excited!!!